Exploring the Mystery of Pre-Birth Communication
by Elisabeth Hallett
Long before your child is born, you may feel a connection, an inkling of the baby-to-be. It may be in a dream, so vivid that you feel you are meeting a real person who already exists, somewhere, somehow. Here is what one mother remembers:
"My son was born five months ago and the first contact that I remember happened three years ago when my husband and I first met and fell in love. It was during our first month together that I entered into my journal a dream where I saw our son Austin playing with his dad. The dream was very vivid and the image of him as clear as a photograph. I wrote a physical description of him and knew what a beautifully special little soul he is. I fell so in love with this child that for two years all I could think about was getting pregnant and being able to hold him in my arms."
The idea of connecting with a future child before conception may seem almost unbelievable. It may be easier to accept the dreams and intuitions and "knowing" feelings that come later, during pregnancy. Austin's mother continues her story:
"After two years and finally a commitment to be married I became pregnant. Throughout my pregnancy I dreamed of him and he always looked the same. Same golden red hair and beautiful blue eyes. This description wouldn't be considered a "genetic given" considering my husband and I both have dark hair and eyes. And in our dreams we'd fly together. We'd meet at the mouth of a river where it meets the ocean and we'd fly the stretch of the beach together playfully.
"Now that he's here I get physical tangible evidence of what I felt about him all along. He sparkles magically like the sun on the ocean on a clear day. His spirit is as free as a happy gull flying along the beach. His hair is like spun gold, each strand holding rays of sunshine. And his violet blue eyes shine with the hope and purity of intent of all humanity."
What a delight to think that in our dreams we may be able to play with our children before they are born! Many pre-birth connections are playful and fun like those in the stories above. Others seem to have a different purpose. Some bring news of the pregnancy to an unsuspecting mother- or father-to-be. Others come in stressful times, and help to reassure a worried parent.
Mary's experience was the "announcing" kind, and it happened while she was wide awake and talking with her college teacher. Suddenly she heard a different, inner voice that was almost like a buzzing sound. The voice said: "The reason you have felt physically burdened and emotionally burdened is because you have invited me into your life. I am here with you. I am here." Mary says that she felt very warm after receiving this message. "My heart felt warm, as if I had been hugged by an old friend," she recalls. "I found out the next day that I was two weeks pregnant."
Another woman felt an inner response when she needed reassurance during pregnancy. Vivien writes: "There was a period, about five weeks before my due date, when I was feeling really badly. I think it was because I had my third cold since getting pregnant, and just couldn't eat the amounts and types of food that I 'should,' and I couldn't control my negative thoughts, and I felt even more guilt because of these. I was apologizing to the unborn baby, in a state of deep shame, and all of a sudden I felt like I was being hugged by a field of light, and an unheard message appeared in my consciousness, which told me, 'Don't worry - I'm fine!'"
And so, what do these experiences mean? Is it possible that our future children come visiting, to laugh and play with us, to hug and encourage us before they take up their baby roles? I don't know the answer. I do know that we can be unusually sensitive during the time that we are opening up our hearts and lives to a child, whether by birth or by adoption. It's a good time to pay attention to subtle hints as well as dramatic encounters.
My own pre-conception experience was the subtle kind. It happened over and over during the months before I conceived my daughter. Just at the edge of sleep, I would suddenly feel as though I had caught sight of the dearest person in the world. It was like a little fountain of joy springing up in my heart. But who was this person I loved so much? The feeling of it didn't seem to match anyone I already knew. I like to think it was my soon-to-be daughter, coming close enough for me to catch an impression of her - but I don't know for sure.
How about you? Have you glimpsed your child's face in a dream, or felt a loving presence, or just had a sudden flash of knowing something about your baby-to-be? If you are pregnant now, or hope to be pregnant soon, keep your inner eyes and ears open! Someone may be trying to get in touch.
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